Last night I got into an
argument discussion on a friend’s Facebook page.
A friend of hers used the word “retarded” to describe a
person child that she didn’t agree with. The child she was referring to was this Girl Scout, who lives in California and is boycotting the Girl Scout Organization because they are allowing a transgendered child to participate in a Colorado based Girl Scout troop. Do I agree with what this girl is doing? No, but that’s another post entirely. BUT is that justification to refer to her as retarded? Absolutely not. It’s especially appalling that this name calling comes from an adult. A MOTHER in fact.
It’s ironic that she is upset by a child who is taking a stand against something she doesn’t think is right yet she resorts to name calling. I think this is what some people refer to as the pot calling the kettle black.
But back to the point of the discussion.
STOP USING IT.
I don’t care if you describing an action, a person, a situation, whatever. It’s offensive and inappropriate.
This person accused me of “taking it personally and being butt hurt” Fair enough. It is pretty shocking to see a mother refer to another child as “retarded”
I guess it shouldn’t surprise me, because when I called her out on being offensive, guess what she said to me?
You guessed it! “Don’t be retarded”
How cute right? or not cute.
It get’s better. She then decided that I must be mentally disabled because I didn’t like that she used the “R” word.
Enough re-hashing, you can read the exchange yourself. I’ve blocked the names and faces of the innocent.
If you can’t wrap your head around WHY this word is so offensive to people, you’ve obviously been living under a rock. And if you can’t be respectful when people around you ask you NOT to use the “R” word, then, well, you obviously you are lacking empathy.
In case you are wondering, both of my kids have developmental delays. And even if they were “typically developing” it doesn’t change how I feel about the “R” word. It’s hurtful and hateful and it shouldn’t be used.
It’s funny how the argument comes up that its a generational thing, how “back in the day” people use the word “moron” or “idiot” Even better that the conversation continued (after I stopped responding) and went on to talk about racial slurs and how that has changed too and was once accepted. Seriously? That’s justification for using an offensive word? Because a form of it was once accepted?
How about setting an example for society and YOUR CHILDREN and just stop using them. The “R” Word, racial slurs, all of them. There is never a time or place for them. Ever. You aren’t being cute or funny when you use them. It just makes you look like an uneducated, insensitive JERK.